U Can't Marry Him, He's Yoruba

[Onyiiboy]

Originally posted by igboryder
People here are entitled to their own opinons but this is what I am gonna say. Just like Onyiboy said, my parents to have said I shouldnt marry anyone outside my tribe despite the fact that I was born outside Nigeria, was in Europe for about 8 years, went back to Nigeria and left Nigeria for good some years ago. Initially I was okay with their opinions but the last few years I have struggled within myself and I decided that I would marry whoever I wanted to be with. My parents are not going to marry the girl, I am so I told my Mom that I am gonna marry anyone and if they dont like it,then am sorry. I guess it's because of the civil war that occured several years ago that's why. No doubt I have met some tribalistic girls be it Yoruba, Edo etc but in the end I told them to pack their bags because am not tribalistic and I dont want anything to do with u. I have a few yoruba friends who are really nice and wouldnt mind dating igbo people or anybody for that matter because it's love that conquers not all this tribal crap.
I have yoruba relatives so why must I be different I mean. I ask babes upfront if they are kool with me and if they are fine, if not I tell them to get out and that's if I meet any nigerian chicks in the first place.

AMEN.

[MIprincess]

Originally posted by DEAD POETS
are ppl on this thread actually being serious, or una just dey play.

this thread is funny, why wont they be serious, abeg toks tribalism in naija is so real to the point that its funny. I thank God for growin up in Lagos sha, and gettin out b4 gettin indoctrinated

[Ada-ide]

Originally posted by MIprincess
LOL@ ur whole village, how small is it?

girl if they love u as their child, they'll get over it. Not showin up to their child's wedding is something they'll have to live with even after the going is good.

Exactly, they need to understand that the whole entire world is undergoing a huge change.

I remember this episode in the Fresh Prince of Bel-Air, when the youngest Aunt of Will got married to a white guy and Will's mum wouldn't give her blessings...I am sure that my Mum remembers to this very day what i had said about that.

So if you know that you have a guy/gurl outside your tribe...it's time you start dropping hints about how you feel about their reservations.

[MIprincess]

Originally posted by Onyiiboy
hahah...i used to think my dad was just joking...but he's not.... i mean, we had a family meeting about my yoruba GF!


MY Girlfriend!!!!!!!!

not uncommon, happens all the time, really means nothing, cousin and her peeps went at it for 2yrs, baaaaaaah 2yrs, she get time sha? Same people raising havoc, love her man to death now.

anyhow she's been happily married to her Yoruba husband for 3yrs now anyway.

[Yemoja]

I am

Originally posted by DEAD POETS
are ppl on this thread actually being serious, or una just dey play.

[MIprincess]

Originally posted by Ada-ide
Exactly, they need to understand that the whole entire world is undergoing a huge change.

I remember this episode in the Fresh Prince of Bel-Air, when the youngest Aunt of Will got married to a white guy and Will's mum wouldn't give her blessings...I am sure that my Mum remembers to this very day what i had said about that.

So if you know that you have a guy/gurl outside your tribe...it's time you start dropping hints about how you feel about their reservations.

droppin hints? goodness y'all your peeps are human beings, u all are talkin like if u say the wrong thing, u'll be grounded
Its a mental state of mind, unless u verbally say something, adult to adult, nothin will ever change.

[Ada-ide]

Originally posted by Onyiiboy
hahah...i used to think my dad was just joking...but he's not.... i mean, we had a family meeting about my yoruba GF!


MY Girlfriend!!!!!!!!

LOL

My people know that i hang with yorubas and Delta peeps but they think that they are only friends

[gabyebony]

Originally posted by Ada-ide
Exactly, they need to understand that the whole entire world is undergoing a huge change.

I remember this episode in the Fresh Prince of Bel-Air, when the youngest Aunt of Will got married to a white guy and Will's mum wouldn't give her blessings...I am sure that my Mum remembers to this very day what i had said about that.

So if you know that you have a guy/gurl outside your tribe...it's time you start dropping hints about how you feel about their reservations.

I tried my mum and said "what if out of ur four girls, one marries an African American, and all the others Igbos, she said she will thank God.But by the next day i had uncles and aunties calling me and preaching about staying single,and how Akatas kill and yadi yada. SO momsi ain't cool with it after all her yrs in yankee

[MIprincess]

Originally posted by gabyebony
I tried my mum and said "what if out of ur four girls, one marries an African American, and all the others Igbos, she said she will thank God.But by the next day i had uncles and aunties calling me and preaching about staying single,and how Akatas kill and yadi yada. SO momsi ain't cool with it after all her yrs in yankee

Funny as the Igbos say "Akuko!!" that is after worryin about what ur parents think, u'll have to worry about every other member of the extended fam...goodness y'all make ur lives so difficult

[meanie]

I guess adamma and Onyiiboy are so upset about it because they didn't grow up with those kind of attitudes. I mean, most people who grew up in Nigeria know that if you're dating someone you parents will disapprove of because of religion or tribe or whatever, you make sure your parents never find out about the relationship. And, if you guys start getting really serious, you start dropping hints about it and gradually lead up to the BIG fight.

I'm not saying it's right; I think it's wrong to tell me I can only marry an Ibo guy who is Anglican and comes from a "reputable" family, but the truth is, that's how my parents, aunts and uncles, and many people of their generation for that matter, see things. But we have to realize that it's not restricted to Nigerians; even here in the US, white parents will disapprove if their kid wants to marry a Black or Hispanic person, and vice versa. The only reason they probably won't "forbid" the marriage is that in the American culture, it's understood that the person can go do whatever the heck they want with or without the family's "approval", so the parents quickly shut up and accept things. Nigerian parents will shut up and acceptt things too after a while if they see that you this person makes you happy and you really love each other.

Originally posted by Ada-ide
Exactly, they need to understand that the whole entire world is undergoing a huge change.

I remember this episode in the Fresh Prince of Bel-Air, when the youngest Aunt of Will got married to a white guy and Will's mum wouldn't give her blessings...I am sure that my Mum remembers to this very day what i had said about that.

So if you know that you have a guy/gurl outside your tribe...it's time you start dropping hints about how you feel about their reservations.

[gabyebony]

Originally posted by MIprincess
Funny as the Igbos say "Akuko!!" that is after worryin about what ur parents think, u'll have to worry about every other member of the extended fam...goodness y'all make ur lives so difficult

My sister. Anyway what will happen will happen but at least they have an idea that i can't se any cute igbos where i'm at.I know its gonna be hard, but i know they love me and will show up even if i decide to marry a crack head.
EDIT: at least my mum will show up

[MIprincess]

Originally posted by meanie
I guess adamma and Onyiiboy are so upset about it because they didn't grow up with those kind of attitudes. I mean, most people who grew up in Nigeria know that if you're dating someone you parents will disapprove of because of religion or tribe or whatever, you make sure your parents never find out about the relationship. And, if you guys start getting really serious, you start dropping hints about it and gradually lead up to the BIG fight.

I'm not saying it's right; I think it's wrong to tell me I can only marry an Ibo guy who is Anglican and comes from a "reputable" family, but the truth is, that's how my parents, aunts and uncles, and many people of their generation for that matter, see things. But we have to realize that it's not restricted to Nigerians; even here in the US, white parents will disapprove if their kid wants to marry a Black or Hispanic person, and vice versa. The only reason they probably won't "forbid" the marriage is that in the American culture, it's understood that the person can go do whatever the heck they want with or without the family's "approval", so the parents quickly shut up and accept things. Nigerian parents will shut up and acceptt things too after a while if they see that you this person makes you happy and you really love each other.

eeem in the US, I know of several people who disowned their child for marrying black, American culture or no American culture. My friend's sister is still rel bitter her younger uncle married an older white lady and its been 12yrs, cause accordin to her he was a fine black man and could have married any fine black woman he wanted.

[Onyiiboy]

My mom told me that when u marry someone, u marry their whole family....that explains everything

[ASTUTE]

Originally posted by MIprincess
this thread is funny, why wont they be serious, abeg toks tribalism in naija is so real to the point that its funny. I thank God for growin up in Lagos sha, and gettin out b4 gettin indoctrinated

Then I apologize to Phantom for dissing her, I thot this was just for kicks. Just to argue or something. But if ppl really have these views, they need more of my help than my disses. I wish some of y'al well. The God u worship will see u thru.

[gabyebony]

Originally posted by DEAD POETS
Then I apologize to Phantom for dissing her, I thot this was just for kicks. Just to argue or something. But if ppl really have these views, they need more of my help than my disses. I wish some of y'al well. The God u worship will see u thru.

Ur point is?