U Can't Marry Him, He's Yoruba - Page 2

pebbles · 07-12-2004, 06:03 AM

so what ethnicity do u consider ok for u and ur kids to marry?

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Originally posted by Phantom
Adamna, it has nothing to do with being raised in the US, you'd have encountered the same thing raised in Naija.

Personally, I can't imagine marrying a Yoruba dude. I just can't imagine my kids being called Tayo or Bunmi... let's not even talk about having one Adebayo kind last name.

07-12-2004, 06:11 AM

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Originally posted by dupreejohnson
so name them something different..................

If the Yoruba dude doesn't mind the 'no Yoruba in this house' rule and all my kids having Isoko first and last names then hey, that's cool.

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so what ethnicity do u consider ok for u and ur kids to marry?

I aint gat no kids but if I do, I think they can marry whomever.

As for me, I just can't imagine it. Personally, I prefer other minorities mainly Delta/Edo/Rivers peeps. But you never know what's going to happen in the future abi? I just can't imagine marrying a Yoruba/Hausa/Igbo person. Igbo to a much lesser degree though...

omadandala · 07-12-2004, 06:18 AM

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Originally posted by adanma
And the funny thing is my MOM IS NOT IGBO..she's from Calabar..she's ibibio!! And my father's rebuttal for that is "but she can speak igbo"....uh SO WHAT!!!...THAT MEANS NOTHING.!! So now because she can speak your language she is qualified as an igbo?? So because I speak spanish you can now call me hispanic??

Na wow o...lol@"she can speak Igbo"...That's messed up.
kai...an assembly of you aunts and uncles just to give y'all a lecture about dating?
...I feel like some info. is being left out.
What did y'all REALLY do?Complete gist please

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**tike2u** · 07-12-2004, 06:39 AM

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Originally posted by Phantom
Adamna, it has nothing to do with being raised in the US, you'd have encountered the same thing raised in Naija.

Personally, I can't imagine marrying a Yoruba dude. I just can't imagine my kids being called Tayo or Bunmi... let's not even talk about having one Adebayo kind last name.

na wa o and d reason being?cos i hope its not just d name issue

see this is how d trend is passed on...u'll prolly try to instill that same mentality in ur kids too!

07-12-2004, 06:51 AM

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Originally posted by tike2u
na wa o and d reason being?cos i hope its not just d name issue see this is how d trend is passed on...u'll prolly try to instill that same mentality in ur kids too!

I'll try not to. It's not about the name really. I just have issues with about 60% of the population i.e. the three major ethnic groups and I'd rather not marry into their group. That's it mainly.

Don't get me wrong, it's not about the individuals but I don't want myself (by marriage) to become part of any of those groups or have to change my name -hyphenated or not - to bare any of those names. Plus I don't want other people to ever think of me as Yoruba/Igbo/Hausa.

I do realize this is a little closeminded, but I guess you can call it tribalism or reverse tribalism or whatever. But it comes from being a minority in Naija.

Bike$ · 07-12-2004, 07:05 AM

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Originally posted by adanma
no...stop being lazy and read it....it's not that hard.

LOL

soulbrotha · 07-12-2004, 07:12 AM

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Originally posted by Phantom
I'll try not to. It's not about the name really. I just have issues with about 60% of the population i.e. the three major ethnic groups and I'd rather not marry into their group. That's it mainly.

Don't get me wrong, it's not about the individuals but I don't want myself (by marriage) to become part of any of those groups or have to change my name -hyphenated or not - to bare any of those names. Plus I don't want other people to ever think of me as Yoruba/Igbo/Hausa.

I do realize this is a little closeminded, but I guess you can call it tribalism or reverse tribalism or whatever. But it comes from being a minority in Naija.

...and being looked down on for being so. Love a little.

omadandala · 07-12-2004, 07:13 AM

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Originally posted by Phantom
I'll try not to. It's not about the name really. I just have issues with about 60% of the population i.e. the three major ethnic groups and I'd rather not marry into their group. That's it mainly.

Don't get me wrong, it's not about the individuals but I don't want myself (by marriage) to become part of any of those groups or have to change my name -hyphenated or not - to bare any of those names. Plus I don't want other people to ever think of me as Yoruba/Igbo

I do realize this is a little closeminded, but I guess you can call it tribalism or reverse tribalism or whatever. But it comes from being a minority in Naija.

lol...abi o...

**Odogwu** · 07-12-2004, 08:32 AM

Adanma, first of all, i am not surprised at your reaction since you are born and raised in Northamerica. So the whole notion of "assimulation" and "integreation" is thrown around everywhere but NOBODY practices it.
NEWSFLASH!!!! people like to marry their own. The white america do that to the fullest. I rarely see any white male marrying a black woman especially way up in the coperate ladder.
Now if u wanna call your parents ideas primitive,archaic and ludacris, that's fine. But so is everyone else. I do not c the big deal in understanding the fact that "birds of da same feather flock together"

IT's funny sha coz u don not even know half the story sef coz withing Igbo land, there are "no go areas" too. But i will not bore u with dat.

**Keepin-ItReal** · 07-12-2004, 08:47 AM

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Originally posted by Onyiiboy
Today, my uncles (including Adamna's dad), my aunt, and my parents had a LONG discussion with me about my yoruba GF. Among the topics mentioned were:

1. dating is a distraction in college
2. yorubas are evil
3. i'm too good for her
4. yorubas are wicked
5. yorubas are the enemies of igbos
6. i shouldnt' think of gurls in college
7. i have to choose between the family and her

now that's realistic and the others are trash

**MIprincess** · 07-12-2004, 09:06 AM

they havent started, but bring home an Ngwa man, and I bet they'll be like kai, nooo they eat human beings, just like Odogwu said, or it'll be noooo oh they are osu, or nooo oh they treat their wives bad in that family!

LOL anyway this weekend, a close fam friend was like dont marry Yoruba or Calabar, instead of that do like N (N is a family friend's daughter)did, and marry Caribbean or black american, and ur folks will give u land to build a country home. After all they look just like us, infact throw on native wear and u wont even know the difference.
I was like hmm i guess Calabar persin doesnt look like me, see me see trouble.

I was like aaah, u all made it easy for me, I've the whole black diaspora as my oyster, just not the whole naija

I think Aruba is callin my name

ASTUTE · 07-12-2004, 10:02 AM

Quote:

Originally posted by Phantom
Adamna, it has nothing to do with being raised in the US, you'd have encountered the same thing raised in Naija.

Personally, I can't imagine marrying a Yoruba dude. I just can't imagine my kids being called Tayo or Bunmi... let's not even talk about having one Adebayo kind last name.

Yoruba dudes don't want u either. What's funny is chicks on here can find a decent guy to ask them out, then they act like dey are just not into dating. Bahahahaha, funny, as if ur were cute and petite like halle, u won't date naijas, especially Yorubas.

Keep making ursef feel good.

ASTUTE · 07-12-2004, 10:05 AM

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Originally posted by MIprincess
they havent started, but bring home an Ngwa man, and I bet they'll be like kai, nooo they eat human beings, just like Odogwu said, or it'll be noooo oh they are osu, or nooo oh they treat their wives bad in that family!

LOL anyway this weekend, a close fam friend was like dont marry Yoruba or Calabar, instead of that do like N (N is a family friend's daughter)did, and marry Caribbean or black american, and ur folks will give u land to build a country home. After all they look just like us, infact throw on native wear and u wont even know the difference.
I was like hmm i guess Calabar persin doesnt look like me, see me see trouble.

I was like aaah, u all made it easy for me, I've the whole black diaspora as my oyster, just not the whole naija I think Aruba is callin my name

I say ignorance is bliss.... make ppl who wish, rejoice in their stupidity. Those who have eyes, ears and a brain will learn.

Bros Ye · 07-12-2004, 11:09 AM

she pple like us (nigerians) are used to it.
when other africans say ahhhh naija pple stay away from them
they are dangerous oh!

even as close as ghanians
i didn't know it this bad in my own backyard!!

na wa oh!

Lord AnGree · 07-12-2004, 12:16 PM

its funny how girls come up in here saying i wont date yoruba like we give fuck

there are millions of fish in the sea darling
its a buyers market

07-12-2004, 08:32 AM	#24 (permalink)
Odogwu Ambassador Join Date: Nov 2000 Posts: 12,539 Points: 96,264.80 Bank: 1,970,629.90 Total Points: 2,066,894.70 Donate Rep Power: 3254879	Adanma, first of all, i am not surprised at your reaction since you are born and raised in Northamerica. So the whole notion of "assimulation" and "integreation" is thrown around everywhere but NOBODY practices it. NEWSFLASH!!!! people like to marry their own. The white america do that to the fullest. I rarely see any white male marrying a black woman especially way up in the coperate ladder. Now if u wanna call your parents ideas primitive,archaic and ludacris, that's fine. But so is everyone else. I do not c the big deal in understanding the fact that "birds of da same feather flock together" IT's funny sha coz u don not even know half the story sef coz withing Igbo land, there are "no go areas" too. But i will not bore u with dat. __________________ Love You and Miss You Gabriel aka Zekes Olympics

07-12-2004, 09:06 AM	#26 (permalink)
MIprincess Lolo I of Nibo Join Date: Apr 2002 Posts: 8,362 Points: 1,139.85 Bank: 98,835.64 Total Points: 99,975.49 Donate Rep Power: 13491	they havent started, but bring home an Ngwa man, and I bet they'll be like kai, nooo they eat human beings, just like Odogwu said, or it'll be noooo oh they are osu, or nooo oh they treat their wives bad in that family! LOL anyway this weekend, a close fam friend was like dont marry Yoruba or Calabar, instead of that do like N (N is a family friend's daughter)did, and marry Caribbean or black american, and ur folks will give u land to build a country home. After all they look just like us, infact throw on native wear and u wont even know the difference. I was like hmm i guess Calabar persin doesnt look like me, see me see trouble. I was like aaah, u all made it easy for me, I've the whole black diaspora as my oyster, just not the whole naija I think Aruba is callin my name __________________ Blessed by the Most High Need some inspiration? Check out Heartlight for powerful words "Ugo chara acha adi(ghi) echu echu"--Igbo proverb- The eagle never flies low. One that is well trained will stand the test of time/will endure. C'est Dieu qui donne la vie.

07-12-2004, 11:09 AM	#29 (permalink)
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