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Originally Posted by Arokoyo
Naija man and woman. Newly weds, delivers a child.
Is it required or is it the norm that the 2 inlaws come for your first baby?
Is it the norm that one of the mothers must stay for at least 3 months when your first baby is born to help you?
Who stays? Or which one is more common, husband's mother or wife's mother?
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Note: This is not about me oh, they are just random questions that i always wonder about.
More questions to come. Feel free to ask or answer questions please. Share ur thoughts. Need to know some things.
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I am not Nigerian but I will answer from a Ghanaian perspective to give some diversity...The two inlaws/extended families do not come for the baby-only the woman's side because in Akan culture the child does not belong to the husband/or his extended family. However, in modern day the line is blurring.
Since the child belongs to the woman's side of the family-it is more common for her mother to come and stay. Theory- she and her family have gained a new addition to the family that needs to be catered to. Second, the bonds of mother/daughter presume she come and be with the new mother.