When your guy friend confuses you

[swazi]

Ok , maybe I am slow, but my friend (male) is confusing me at the moment

Background

We met at varsity 10 years ago, and are friendship grew along the years.We have managed to keep touch over the years, and he is like a cousin to me.

Nature of relationship

Purely platonic, we have never kissed or shag.I speak to him everyday via phone, bbm emails.I see him twice a week over dunner or drinks.We talk about everything, from works , to boys, to his next shag, just about everything.We are just good buddies.My friend is generous and spontanious.He flies me to another province once a month or so, does nice things, he is just a generous guy like that.

Problem
My friends say its not normal for a guy to spend so much money on a girl, and not want to shag her.They think he is up to something, and I am just blind and stupid.I am of the notion that we just really get along.He has never tried to shag me, we are really comfortable around each other, plus I am not his type, he likes them white.

Question

Should I be worried, or is this normal boy and girl friendship?

[aderonkei]

If it aint broke......

[Clockwatcher]

Why don't you keep enjoying your relationship and if he tries to change the nature of it, then you worry about it then?

[Lyton]

he might be gay for all you know and pretends 'he likes them white'

[Boss]

Why do some of yall overthink shit?
And why do some of you have shitty ass friends that tell you these shitty ass advice?

First off, you've been friends with him for ten years. If he were trying to fuck you, hed have fucked you ten years ago. No pussy is worth waiting ten years for.

Next, he's not trying to date you because once again, hed have done that a long time ago plus he's talking about the other girls he wants to fuck in details? Here's a rule of thumb. And rather of common sense. No man who wants to date you would tell you of his conquests or intended conquests. He feels comfortable talking to u about it and prolly wants a girls perspective

The spending money bit is stupid. I have friends who I buy presents for. That doesn't mean I want to fuck em. That's stupid. Maybe he can afford to do shit like that and he wants to for a dear friend of his?

Your friends are just jealous and frankly getting to ur head. Maybe they have nothing else going for them and men they know of are just the ones who want to fuck everything that moves. Not those who can see a value in a person and see a friendly relationship with that person.

But moreover, it further elucidates one of my dogmas that women should stop listening to other female "friends" about men.
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[Rotimi]

I think you should first understand what you want from the relationship...

you really could be sweating over nothing.....for instance, he really might not see u dat way, and u're here wondering if he does.....

[Nene]

he's keeping his options open and u need to be doing the same and not read too much into his gestures