Ladies, can you love a man but not like him?

[PH Boy]

Originally Posted by specialk

this dude needs meds

[naija_pikin]

Doesn't make sense to me. As far as I'm concerned, like is a prerequisite for love, and when things start to fall apart, love would be the first to go. I can dislike the way a person is and still care for him, but if I dislike the person in his totality, then there is no way I could harbour any feelings of love for him, romantic or otherwise.

[FIE]

It's not possible

[saul_to_paul]

Love is a deed and not really an emotion. When one considers 1 Corinthians 13, we find that love is really a "verb". Therefore, I can be patient, kind, slow to anger, etc and these are "loving attributes" that does not require me to like another first. What do you think?

[Hazaq]

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[Hazaq]

Originally Posted by saul_to_paul

Love is a deed and not really an emotion. When one considers 1 Corinthians 13, we find that love is really a "verb". Therefore, I can be patient, kind, slow to anger, etc and these are "loving attributes" that does not require me to like another first. What do you think?

You do not have to like someone, like what they do etc, but you can love them...yes! Love is a choice and not a segment of our emotion. If love is based on our emotion, then each passing day we will be falling in and out of love with people around us. Love you this minute, hate you next, etc, daily, ongoing! So yes love is action in that respect, not feelings.

[Hazaq]

Originally Posted by Boss

A co-worker said she loves her man but she doesn't like him.

She said she loves him because he loves her and he takes care of her when she needs it, but she doesn't like him because of the way he is.

I think she's confused

I dunno if u can love a person without liking them
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wut u think? is it possible to love someone and not like em? Or is she confused in your opinion?

If her reason for "loving" him is because he "loves" her, if one day comes and she doesn't feel loved, what would happen, would she stop loving him?

She obviously does not know what love is. Love is not given out of merit. A person does not have to deserve my love for me to show love to them.

However in the case of a relationship in this case scenario, mere dating, well u better have a good reason for being with someone beyond he "loves" me. If that is your only reason, the day you do not feel loved, you'd have nothing to hold on to.

You might not like specific things about a person, but you can choose to love them in spite of those things - that is your choice to make. Obviously we all want to be wise. The things we dont like are they things like, i dont like the way he dresses or are they things more to do with their character - e.g. this man lacks integrity for an example. Character should always be our number one basis for wanting to be with someone or not! Good character or bad character. And if they have a good character, every other thing can follow, you can tweak the poor dress sense for an example! If bad character, I'd say back off.

If she's planning on marrying this guy, there are a lot more things to put into perspective. His love alone cannot hold their marriage together. I'd reserve other comments on this.