I need your toughts on this igbo guy!!!

[talltolu]

Originally Posted by aderonkei

Christmas was great. Twas momsie's bday so we had people over at the crib.

your mommy and my daddy are birthday mates!

[naija_pikin]

smh.

[aderonkei]

Words of wisdom from Rita the kokolet

my boyfriends dump me and go to habroad in spain. Can u himagine - his the one who disvirgin me - he's na in spain - his IN abroad - HI heven spend many many times hating him and come to hate hall men but then hi now realising that his not all men that bad - his woman that make a man go bad so women should not hate man or make man go bad. Now hI like hall men hagain..

[still_dres]

@koski

Very childish statement!!! Since you are a grown adult I believe that you are able to use your words in order to manifest your disagreement. Your statement can't intimidate me! You are making fun of yourself because you are doing nothing to improve your own image. However, I do believe that you know better, so behave!

[naija_pikin]

lol..my DID senses are tingling with increasing strength.

[still_dres]

@koski

There is no need to remind you that Haitian people are respected everywhere they go. They have respect for themselves. They have strong values. They believe in hard work.

No need to tell either that if you can today be in the western world you should go thanks the Haitian people. No need to tell you either if you can today be treated like a man you should praise their courage. No need to tell you either if you have a country on your own it's because there's a nation who call itself Haitian.

Go and educate yourself my brother! It is urgent because next time such rubbish will bring shame on you!

[still_dres]

@koski

You are right on the fact that I came in a nigerian forum in search of more lights (I'm grateful for each of you that provided me with your best advices), but I came as a responsible human being who wanted to discuss with other human beings with respect.

[still_dres]

@koski

So feel free to ignore my posts. I'm begging! Moreover, I will not descend to your level, so you are wasting your time.

[Eraser]

Originally Posted by naija_pikin

Baby girl, you've been toyed with from the get-go. You may not play games, but he sure as hell does. My advice to you is simply this: forget him and move on with your life.

well said!

[still_dres]

@Eraser

I guess I'm too understanding. I couldn't believe it before (I thought he was really unstable), but now that naija_pikin and you came up with this I even start making change in my behavior. Thanks!

[baba_ibadan]

Oh my, Still_dres, did you read your story? You said the guy will not contact you for a long time until you write/call him... the writing is all over the wall, seems to me that you want him and you're pushing yourself onto him...Even though he obviously forgets about you= doesn't want you.... you need to let him go.

Its not a nigerian men thingy. If a man doesn't want you as much as you want him... you always end up feeling like shyt. bitter truth. Unless you have some juju/voodoo (love portion) powder to help you out, its a lost case. Ask the naija women in this room, they can hook u up with some.

And to all the Naija men haters... abeg, let us be... Koski has said it in too many words... and boss too.

[still_dres]

@baba ibadan

I'm not a Naija men hater; I can't be. This is exactly where I got confused. I decided more than once to stop calling him, but when I stop and if he realizes it's for good he'll start on panic mode calling or sending text wanting to know if I'm OK until I start calling again (I don't believe a man should do everything while the woman is just playing hard to get; I'm a moderate feminist, and he knew about it because I told him)...

Moreover, why did he tell me he liked everything in me and he didn't care if I changed or if I became bigger or smaller because I was special to him? Why did he beg me to come visit him last summer and telling me if he's frustrated it's because of financial issues?... Why telling me I need not to let our attraction/affection dies? Why telling me if we met it is God plan (and made up a whole story)? Why did he complain about the fact that sometimes I don't care about him? Why telling me he'll one day run money on me (when I most likely won't be in the need for this)? Why the mix signals? Why sending to me 'I miss you' messages? Why asking me to come for this holidays season? Why is he obsessed by my culinary skills? Why started to call me name like baby, sweety etc and if I refused he would get mad? Why holding me back whenever I wanted to move on?

I remember that once he called me, and a friend of mine picked up the phone, but he hung it up believing that it was my father. When I called him back, and told him it wasn't my father, he spent at least a month trying to know much to convince himself that it was nothing. Moreover, last summer during my stay in his town, he made it clear that he didn't want me to go out alone. Thus, tell me now why is he so insecure or jealous?

The funniest thing is that he always tell me that he wants me. I recently asked him why does he want from me. He didn't reply. When I insisted he told me that he honestly didn't know.

This is exactly why I changed my cell phone number though. Thanks for your comment!

[still_dres]

@baba ibadan

However I accept full responsibility; I should have known better. Thanks, but I'm not in a need of Naija men (I'm here just trying to understand). I was only attracted by one of them. Since I'm a very beautiful person (outward/inward) I have men of all races toasting me, and don't get me wrong it was only a stupid mistake. Thanks a lot!

[still_dres]

loooollllllllllllllllllll!

“The Argument from Intimidation is a confession of intellectual impotence.” Ayn Rand

“Leadership is based on inspiration, not domination; on cooperation, not intimidation.” William Arthur Ward

“The experienced mountain climber is not intimidated by a mountain -- he is inspired by it. The persistent winner is not discouraged by a problem -- he is challenged by it. Mountains are created to be conquered; adversities are designed to be defeated; problems are sent to be solved.” William Arthur Ward

[still_dres]

@baba ibadan

He didn't make me feel rejected instead I'm angry and sometimes sad because the thought of him won't leave my mind alone. I gave him the opportunity to do this, but he refused to; he told me why did I want him to do such thing.

Sometimes when I get angry I have an "acid tongue", but after all he's always willing to forgive and forget like nothing happens even though I know he is still hurt.