On and Off relationships

Boss · 10-01-2009, 07:27 PM

For those who or know people were/are in on and off relationships

What do you think about them? People say they've been dating someone on and off for these many years and sometimes I think.

When it went off, it went off for a reason, if that reason has ground, the relationship should have stayed off, why bring it back on again?

What were both parties doing during their off-time? Does whatever happened during that time matter when you get back on with them?

Okra Soup · 10-02-2009, 02:47 AM

Never been in one of those. Once it's off, it's off.

**talltolu** · 10-02-2009, 03:01 AM

never been in one of those, i don't play that. If I leave, i won't be coming back.

naija_pikin · 10-03-2009, 02:39 AM

I had one of those once. Don't even know that I can call it a relationship; it was a joke at best -- a bad one, at that. First dude I really liked, so I didn't have my mind right. At that point, it kinda mattered what happened in-between, but not much thought was put into it in general.

What I think about them? A waste of time, to say the least.

Boss · 10-03-2009, 08:36 AM

One of my friends broke up with a guy that she was dating on and off for 5 years...I told her if there was a reason to be broken up in the first place, its best if it stays that way.

I met another lady who's currently with a guy she's been dating on and off for 5 years..she says she doesnt want to break up with him coz she knows him best and vice versa but dude is a LOSER. I told her to break it off, she said she might, but i dont trust that she would. Theres something about these girls with lowered expectations that keeps them chained down.

naija_pikin · 10-04-2009, 02:57 AM

Thank God mine wasn't for half that amount of time.

Anywho, it's not every relationship that is non-salvageable after a break-up.

saul_to_paul · 10-04-2009, 04:10 AM

Both people involved in an "on-off" relationship are undecided on what they desire. If I knew such a couple that asked for my advice, I'll say that they end their relationship by dating other people. What do you think?

**Daddy** · 10-04-2009, 06:54 AM

it's like TV
sometimes you watching FOX and the commercial comes on, so you switch to MTV then the commercial comes on and you switch back to FOX or everything sucks and you turn off the TV, then you turn it back on another time.

on and off, it is for some people, not for everyone. there are valid reasons for it.

victorudaba · 10-04-2009, 03:37 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by naija_pikin

Thank God mine wasn't for half that amount of time.

Anywho, it's not every relationship that is non-salvageable after a break-up.

hi nice speech,
i also want to say that been in a relationship is a great thing but it is the understanding between the two that matters.

naija_pikin · 10-04-2009, 07:59 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by victorudaba

hi nice speech,
i also want to say that been in a relationship is a great thing but it is the understanding between the two that matters.

lol, thanks..probably the shortest "speech" I've ever made.

I agree with you. If there's little to no understanding between partners, and/or they're not quite on the same page, a relationship is neither worth pursuing nor continuing.

naijadiva01 · 10-06-2009, 02:27 AM

Dated this dude on and off for about a year and a half, but I'm not sure if it counts... Even though I had dated other people when we were off, I couldn't seem to get over him for some reason... It wasn't until he did me strong thing that I finally saw the light... I guess that's what I needed; him to do wrong... Needless to say that I won't be engaging in those typesa situations again if I can help it...

**Nene** · 10-09-2009, 01:59 AM

can't get rid of my ex for shit! by force next of kin

Thief101 · 10-13-2009, 09:28 PM

When relationship turns into On and OFF, it is no longer love but pure good gbenching. I remember those days.

melody_me · 10-30-2009, 07:44 PM

I used to have this friend....MY GOD! What I went through with this girl...
Yo-yo-ing me UP AND FREAKING DOWN THE PLACE! Breaks up with bf every two weeks (I am not kidding)...her relationship was a drama-fest, her break-ups even worse (the crying, the-we-have-to-drop-our-lives-and-focus-on-you, the dissecting and overanalyzing of her relationship etc etc, every two weeks?! I don't think so...). DRAINING ME....my God. I can't believe I put up with so much crap from this girl. My friend, I'm not in the relationship with you!
I had to distance myself from her. She didn't (and I think still doesn't) know what she really wants. There comes a time in your life, you assess and take stock to figure out what you really want (the earlier you do this, the better. some of the smartest people do this really early)...she had never done that. And then she was stuck with this person that she wasn't sure if he was what she wanted...And then made it MY (and our other friends' ) problem as well.
The insecurities, the selfishness, the insensitivity...my friend go and figure yourself out, it's not me and you!

melody_me · 10-30-2009, 07:47 PM

I think more often than not, people that do that are deeply insecure and need to figure out who they are/what they want in a partner. Think of what you fundamentally want in a partner (not just stupid shit like eyes, height and lips...)
Not intending to offend anyone. Just based on my life experiences.

10-01-2009, 07:27 PM	#1 (permalink)
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saul_to_paul Registered User Join Date: Mar 2006 Location: South Florida Posts: 64 Points: 2,293.00 Bank: 0.00 Total Points: 2,293.00 Donate Rep Power: 0	Unsteady Relationship! Both people involved in an "on-off" relationship are undecided on what they desire. If I knew such a couple that asked for my advice, I'll say that they end their relationship by dating other people. What do you think? __________________ Read your bible and pray!

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Daddy NR Daddy Join Date: Jan 2002 Posts: 17,601 Points: 216,280.17 Bank: 655,672,280.38 Total Points: 655,888,560.55 Donate Blog Entries: 6 Rep Power: 21474892	it's like TV sometimes you watching FOX and the commercial comes on, so you switch to MTV then the commercial comes on and you switch back to FOX or everything sucks and you turn off the TV, then you turn it back on another time. on and off, it is for some people, not for everyone. there are valid reasons for it. __________________ Born to Rule, Born to Win. The World is my Mine! If you want something you have never had, you must be willing to do something you have never done! You must believe in yourself, for if you will not believe in yourself THEN WHY SHOULD anyone believe in you? The_world_is_pushed_and_pulled, by_Fear,_Need_and Greed.

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Okra Soup Registered User Join Date: Sep 2009 Posts: 5 Points: 910.00 Bank: 0.00 Total Points: 910.00 Donate Rep Power: 0	Never been in one of those. Once it's off, it's off.

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naija_pikin Femme Fatale Join Date: Jul 2002 Location: Dans tes rêves Posts: 29,125 Points: 63,000.00 Bank: 294,666,343,958.06 Total Points: 294,666,406,958.06 Donate Rep Power: 21474914	I had one of those once. Don't even know that I can call it a relationship; it was a joke at best -- a bad one, at that. First dude I really liked, so I didn't have my mind right. At that point, it kinda mattered what happened in-between, but not much thought was put into it in general. What I think about them? A waste of time, to say the least.

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naijadiva01 Registered User Join Date: Oct 2006 Posts: 6,170 Points: 110,410.00 Bank: 71,746,254.17 Total Points: 71,856,664.17 Donate Rep Power: 21474859	Dated this dude on and off for about a year and a half, but I'm not sure if it counts... Even though I had dated other people when we were off, I couldn't seem to get over him for some reason... It wasn't until he did me strong thing that I finally saw the light... I guess that's what I needed; him to do wrong... Needless to say that I won't be engaging in those typesa situations again if I can help it...

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Nene Elder Join Date: Apr 2003 Location: where u least expect Posts: 12,139 Points: 19,018.20 Bank: 0.00 Total Points: 19,018.20 Donate Rep Power: 1567153	can't get rid of my ex for shit! by force next of kin __________________ uncool list : cool list: Dele,Tayo I JUST BELIEVE YOU HAVE TO TAKE LIFE BY THE REINS, AND ACT LIKE YOU MEAN BUSINESS

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Thief101 Registered User Join Date: Sep 2007 Posts: 2,887 Points: 7,648.45 Bank: 238,610,722.87 Total Points: 238,618,371.32 Donate Rep Power: 2408223	When relationship turns into On and OFF, it is no longer love but pure good gbenching. I remember those days. __________________ No Yawa! No Nsogbu! maka Chukwu

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melody_me Ryder of Hearts Join Date: Jun 2005 Location: Central Illinois. Posts: 6,046 Points: 2,436.15 Bank: 684.73 Total Points: 3,120.88 Donate Rep Power: 48289	I used to have this friend....MY GOD! What I went through with this girl... Yo-yo-ing me UP AND FREAKING DOWN THE PLACE! Breaks up with bf every two weeks (I am not kidding)...her relationship was a drama-fest, her break-ups even worse (the crying, the-we-have-to-drop-our-lives-and-focus-on-you, the dissecting and overanalyzing of her relationship etc etc, every two weeks?! I don't think so...). DRAINING ME....my God. I can't believe I put up with so much crap from this girl. My friend, I'm not in the relationship with you! I had to distance myself from her. She didn't (and I think still doesn't) know what she really wants. There comes a time in your life, you assess and take stock to figure out what you really want (the earlier you do this, the better. some of the smartest people do this really early)...she had never done that. And then she was stuck with this person that she wasn't sure if he was what she wanted...And then made it MY (and our other friends' ) problem as well. The insecurities, the selfishness, the insensitivity...my friend go and figure yourself out, it's not me and you! Last edited by melody_me; 10-30-2009 at 08:11 PM..

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melody_me Ryder of Hearts Join Date: Jun 2005 Location: Central Illinois. Posts: 6,046 Points: 2,436.15 Bank: 684.73 Total Points: 3,120.88 Donate Rep Power: 48289	I think more often than not, people that do that are deeply insecure and need to figure out who they are/what they want in a partner. Think of what you fundamentally want in a partner (not just stupid shit like eyes, height and lips...) Not intending to offend anyone. Just based on my life experiences.

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