On and Off relationships

[jezzicaz789]

Originally Posted by Boss

For those who or know people were/are in on and off relationships

What do you think about them? People say they've been dating someone on and off for these many years and sometimes I think.

When it went off, it went off for a reason, if that reason has ground, the relationship should have stayed off, why bring it back on again?

What were both parties doing during their off-time? Does whatever happened during that time matter when you get back on with them?

Hi guys, Im a newbie. Nice to join this forum.

[naija_pikin]

Hey there, jezz. What are your thoughts on the matter?

Oh, and welcome.

[PH Boy]

Originally Posted by naija_pikin

Hey there, jezz. What are your thoughts on the matter?

Oh, and welcome.

Hey now, moderator...sup with u?

[naija_pikin]

Originally Posted by PH Boy

Hey now, moderator...sup with u?

lol.. y'ain't waste no time honouring your word, I like that.


Now that the forum has been cleared of the junk/spam, I'm wondering how to go about reviving it. It seems like we've covered everything coverable in the main forum, but we still gotta have a lil som'n som'n over here na. Does anyone have any suggestions as per possible topics, etc? What would you guys like to see discussed (within the obvious realm of R&R)?

[Applez]

On-and-offs are dead relationships. You only want them when something is not going right in your current life/ relationship.

Its like momentary amnesia focusing on the good times, good sex, or whateva then Bam reality reminds you y u left in the first place! Waste of time

[Rotimi]

Originally Posted by naija_pikin

lol.. y'ain't waste no time honouring your word, I like that.


Now that the forum has been cleared of the junk/spam, I'm wondering how to go about reviving it. It seems like we've covered everything coverable in the main forum, but we still gotta have a lil som'n som'n over here na. Does anyone have any suggestions as per possible topics, etc? What would you guys like to see discussed (within the obvious realm of R&R)?

Hol'up NP...how many relationships have u been in dat qualifies u to be da moderator of this here forum..... Hi, I'm hater....

Oh, and on da topic.....on & off relationships happen cause feelings linger period

If those feelings r strong enough, u're willing 2 wager dat the person has changed or even blame urself, then u jumpstart the relationship again....and again, and again...until something happens to kill those feelings.

[naija_pikin]

Originally Posted by Rotimi

Hol'up NP...how many relationships have u been in dat qualifies u to be da moderator of this here forum..... Hi, I'm hater....

Oh, and on da topic.....on & off relationships happen cause feelings linger period

If those feelings r strong enough, u're willing 2 wager dat the person has changed or even blame urself, then u jumpstart the relationship again....and again, and again...until something happens to kill those feelings.

Hi Hater.

You're right about the lingering feelings, but as far as the final sounding bell is concerned, it's not always the result of those feelings dying off for once and for all. It could very well be that one of the parties involved makes a conscious decision to do what's best for his/her sanity.

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[MsMarcus]

Iv never been in one. but I could see and understand how it could happen. if you are just so used to someone - its hard not to just go back. its easy.

[mel]

Originally Posted by MsMarcus

Iv never been in one. but I could see and understand how it could happen. if you are just so used to someone - its hard not to just go back. its easy.

Welcome to the Forum.

From what I have seen so far, on and off relationships that continue do so basically because theres a spark the couple enjoy and keep enjoying. Problem is they went off for some reasons (lets say 10 as an example).

Most times when they get back, they do so because of one or more reasons out of the ten ws sorted out AND what they enjoy (not the relationship in its entirety) thinking its the best they can possibly have prolly bcos they may have tested other waters or they didn't test but miss it so much.

I believe that whatever happened while they were off should not play significant roles when they are back together...errrr, but we know there are thresholds based on personal moral and belief systems.

[Daddy]

anywayz, i don't know about yall, but i don't like to chew bubble gum twice. i chew it once and spit it out.