Cheating

Boss · 06-15-2009, 01:53 AM

My fam and I got into an argument about cheating. She was of the opinion that incidents of cheating shouldn't be the end of relationships/marriages. That folks need to turn their head away or work through it...I said, nope. Once and u done. Even if I cheated and u left me, I would prolly man it up as my fault and keep it pushing.

Wut do u honestly think? Would u be able to handle ur SO cheating on one occasion or more than once? Would u work thru it or call it quits at a certain point or ASAP?

naija_pikin · 06-15-2009, 03:20 AM

Depending on how strong my feelings are and the state of the relationship, a lone offense could be forgivable. Beyond that, I'd be playing myself for a fool.

PaJ · 06-15-2009, 04:59 AM

..UN...forgiveable....

Pa

**Wendydoks** · 06-15-2009, 09:17 PM

my close friend recently ended her engagement ww. her fiance when she found out he cheated on her the 2nd time...kudos 2 her. she shudda ended it the 1st time tho...but @least, she dint lie to herself by gooiin on w. the marriage. i commend her for. a marriage dat was barely 2months away! wow!!!! i am so proud of her

Boss · 06-16-2009, 12:50 AM

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Originally Posted by naija_pikin

Depending on how strong my feelings are and the state of the relationship, a lone offense could be forgivable. Beyond that, I'd be playing myself for a fool.

I have a question, assuming u are knee deep with the dude and u think its mutual as well and he cheats...wouldnt u be inclined to be less forgiving?

Bende · 06-16-2009, 12:56 AM

yes, because it's never just once, forgive someone like that and they'll think it's license to do it again

naija_pikin · 06-16-2009, 01:06 AM

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Originally Posted by Boss

I have a question, assuming u are knee deep with the dude and u think its mutual as well and he cheats...wouldnt u be inclined to be less forgiving?

The heart doesn't usually work according to those mathematics. Ultimately, I'd be inclined to end it either way.. but stronger feelings would be the thing to push me to give it one more shot. It could go either way, but I'd be more likely to forgive someone I really like than someone who I like, but who never really had me sprung.

The 'cheating' itself would be looked at in terms of circumstances, etc. If dude just decided he felt like tapping some chick for heck of it.. then yeah, bye. If it were slightly more complicated somehow (I can't quite think of anything at the mo), then I'd give it more thought. My immediate reaction would not be a good one though, that's for certain.

crAzy Don · 06-16-2009, 03:42 AM

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Originally Posted by naija_pikin

The heart doesn't usually work according to those mathematics. Ultimately, I'd be inclined to end it either way.. but stronger feelings would be the thing to push me to give it one more shot. It could go either way, but I'd be more likely to forgive someone I really like than someone who I like, but who never really had me sprung.

The 'cheating' itself would be looked at in terms of circumstances, etc. If dude just decided he felt like tapping some chick for heck of it.. then yeah, bye. If it were slightly more complicated somehow (I can't quite think of anything at the mo), then I'd give it more thought. My immediate reaction would not be a good one though, that's for certain.

1) If dude's got u sprung, then it's more forgivable?

2) How about if he had a full fledged side chick while he was dating u? Or how about if u were the side chick and u didnt know?

naija_pikin · 06-16-2009, 04:59 AM

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Originally Posted by crAzy Don

1) If dude's got u sprung, then it's more forgivable?

2) How about if he had a full fledged side chick while he was dating u? Or how about if u were the side chick and u didnt know?

The chances of someone forgiving another is greater when feelings are stronger. It's not rocket science. Common sense dictates that you'd be more inclined to forgive your best friend for a slip-up than you would be a 'passing' friend/acquaintance. It doesn't mean that the act is more forgivable, it means that you would be more likely to forgive the person. You could also feel the exact same way for two people and forgive one but not the other based on other variables.

Both are grounds for automatic dismissal.

yemf · 06-18-2009, 05:01 AM

Understand:

Everyday is a Naija party, there's jollof rice with goat meat, shirmp flied lice, and pounded yam with egusi veggie, et al et al...but everyonce in a while, a different party is required, maybe once a year nau! Haba! As such, I must turn to Chinese, Indian buffae or fast foods.

See burger king commerical for visual example. It's not cheating if your diet requires variety.

FIE · 06-18-2009, 05:30 PM

I think in a marriage cheating can be forgivable if it happens once and if you can truly forgive. I personally don't believe that people can truly forgive and forget that kind of stuff.

**specialk** · 07-02-2009, 08:49 PM

Cheating is bad. opari...next topic

MizzUndaStud · 07-16-2009, 08:48 AM

once a cheater always a cheater.. i feel bad for this girl I dont know.. what I know is that her man is cheating on her... and he will propose to her and she will say yes... and I know its sad though.. ummm

ONELOVE-HEART · 07-16-2009, 11:30 PM

DID U ASK HIM/HER 21 QUESTION... BEFORE U STARTED TO DATING.

daddidollars · 07-17-2009, 12:43 AM

its not cheating if u dont get caught.....thats why i use hookers...... they get paid, they catch no feelings.... and i bust a nut~

06-15-2009, 01:53 AM	#1 (permalink)
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Wendydoks The Black Rose Join Date: Nov 2005 Location: "Deal with the faults of others as gently as with your own".__Chinese Proverb Posts: 12,983 Points: 39,000.00 Bank: 31,465,884.13 Total Points: 31,504,884.13 Donate Rep Power: 21474874	my close friend recently ended her engagement ww. her fiance when she found out he cheated on her the 2nd time...kudos 2 her. she shudda ended it the 1st time tho...but @least, she dint lie to herself by gooiin on w. the marriage. i commend her for. a marriage dat was barely 2months away! wow!!!! i am so proud of her __________________ Res ipsa loquitur The beginning of love is to let those we love be perfectly themselves, and not to twist them with our own image - otherwise, we love only the reflection of ourselves we find in them. Love comes to those who still hope, even though they've been disappointed, to those who still believe, even though they've been betrayed, to those who still love, even though they've been hurt before.

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yemf Registered User Join Date: Jul 2006 Location: Where? Posts: 68 Points: 2,631.00 Bank: 0.00 Total Points: 2,631.00 Donate Rep Power: 0	Understand: Everyday is a Naija party, there's jollof rice with goat meat, shirmp flied lice, and pounded yam with egusi veggie, et al et al...but everyonce in a while, a different party is required, maybe once a year nau! Haba! As such, I must turn to Chinese, Indian buffae or fast foods. See burger king commerical for visual example. It's not cheating if your diet requires variety. __________________ The Chick Magnet!

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FIE Registered User Join Date: Jul 2002 Posts: 3,731 Points: 43,768.75 Bank: 0.00 Total Points: 43,768.75 Donate Rep Power: 21474863	I think in a marriage cheating can be forgivable if it happens once and if you can truly forgive. I personally don't believe that people can truly forgive and forget that kind of stuff.

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MizzUndaStud Registered User Join Date: Oct 2007 Location: God knows Posts: 4,185 Points: 12,630.30 Bank: 1,176,067.63 Total Points: 1,188,697.93 Donate Rep Power: 21474853	once a cheater always a cheater.. i feel bad for this girl I dont know.. what I know is that her man is cheating on her... and he will propose to her and she will say yes... and I know its sad though.. ummm __________________ --- I love you Daddy but God loves you more..."Sun re o" --- I need more time, I need more money, I need more understanding, I need more advice, I need more love, I need another chance, an open hand I need more grace and a pretty face I need security, stablility I need more space, and I need more sleep. I want the happinenss not tears.. truth not lies, pleasure not pain, sunshine not rainAnd what this all comes down to is I need Him...

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