Shy guys

AfroSoul · 03-30-2009, 07:39 PM

What do women think about shy men?

talltolu · 03-30-2009, 07:41 PM

depends on how shy the dude is. Being too shy can be really annoying sha.

naija_pikin · 03-30-2009, 08:20 PM

I'm not a fan of them, as far as opposite-sex attraction is concerned. An introvert, I don't mind..but I don't want to be responsible for bringing anyone out of their shell.

**Odogwu** · 03-30-2009, 08:59 PM

too bad for shy guys like us.

naija_pikin · 03-30-2009, 09:13 PM

If I'm to go by your NR character, Odogwu, you are far from shy.

Sha, I'm only speaking as far as preferences are concerned. Like TT said, what matters most is the level of shyness. I don't want to go out with someone, only for him to end up in a corner somewhere staring at his feet while I stray off for a bit. However, there are some people who are shy/reserved only for the time it takes you to get to know them. After that, you get exposed to all sorts of laughter-inducing madness that will have you wondering if you're dealing with a different person altogether.

**Odogwu** · 03-30-2009, 10:04 PM

Originally Posted by naija_pikin

If I'm to go by your NR character, Odogwu, you are far from shy.

Sha, I'm only speaking as far as preferences are concerned. Like TT said, what matters most is the level of shyness. I don't want to go out with someone, only for him to end up in a corner somewhere staring at his feet while I stray off for a bit. However, there are some people who are shy/reserved only for the time it takes you to get to know them. After that, you get exposed to all sorts of laughter-inducing madness that will have you wondering if you're dealing with a different person altogether.

there is not enough info on NR to judge me by lol
but like u said, some folks jsut need some familiarity window and after that, they unleash. i prefer that to those that lay everything on da table DAY 1. I luv some element of mystery

AfroSoul · 03-30-2009, 10:43 PM

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I'm not a fan of them, as far as opposite-sex attraction is concerned. An introvert, I don't mind..

What is the difference between 'shy' and 'introverted'?

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but I don't want to be responsible for bringing anyone out of their shell.

Why not?

naija_pikin · 03-31-2009, 12:50 AM

Originally Posted by Odogwu

there is not enough info on NR to judge me by lol
but like u said, some folks jsut need some familiarity window and after that, they unleash. i prefer that to those that lay everything on da table DAY 1. I luv some element of mystery

For me, it really depends on how we meet. On an average day, you'll see me walking around in my heels and looking like a seriously focused yet friendly somebody, and you would get a different impression from me than if you were to be around a gathering of my friends and saw me teasing the hell out of them/beating them up playfully, etc. I don't care much for preserving any air of mystery about me.. but it's funny because even though I let you know the real deal from the get-go, my best guy friends are still confused about certain aspects of my character.

Originally Posted by AfroSoul

What is the difference between 'shy' and 'introverted'?

Why not?

I'm an introvert to a certain extent myself, but I have extraverted qualities and can switch between the two with ease..provided that I feel like it. I know a lot of introverted people who are not shy per se, they just can't be bothered with too many people. But because they're cool with me, they let me in on their crazy/fun side. They're anti-social, but they don't get sweaty palms when around new people or thrown in an unfamiliar situation.

Just because. I've dealt with that kind of a situation before, and although we became good friends, I don't have that kind of time or effort to put up on anyone's behalf. Like I said, it's a matter of preference.

MizzUndaStud · 03-31-2009, 01:12 AM

cant stand them.. will never ever date one... they are shy until u turn them out and they turn into the worst men ever.. hate them..

**shayo4real** · 04-01-2009, 05:07 PM

shy guyz are awesome..heheheh

naijasensation · 04-01-2009, 08:07 PM

Originally Posted by talltolu

depends on how shy the dude is. Being too shy can be really annoying sha.

I completely agree

I'm an introvert but that doesn't mean I'm shy, I just like to keep the noise to a minimum and not be rowdy

J3D · 04-01-2009, 08:17 PM

Ladies love us [shy] guys.

**Nene** · 04-02-2009, 12:57 AM

r there really any shy guys ?

J3D · 04-02-2009, 06:33 PM

Originally Posted by Nene

r there really any shy guys ?

The short answer to your question is ‘yes’. I would like to believe that im a testament to their existence.

Let me digress....

On a serious note, I think the majority of the younger generation (females) are confused (for the lack of better word) when it comes to their overall, [personal] requisites and assessment of the opposite sex. This is partly because some of them are allowing the society to dictate for them and also coupled with the fact that their sense of appeal is constantly evolving – I believe the latter is normal.

Here I am thinking that when the dictionary says an introvert is a shy person by definition, it means the two are the same. What do I know! I think the basis should be the thorough understanding of one’s self/identity and what makes one happy – not what your friends/peers think or the society thinks you need to make you happy. Well, the definition of happiness is another discussion. One could easily attribute the precariousness in such standards to the apparent intricacy in the prevalence of various social phenomena. For example, nowadays people tend to exist more (or even believe more) in virtual reality than physical reality. Globalization has its great affects (and effects) but virtual reality is supposed to take its models from physical reality not the other way around. The same thought process, I believe, applies to the entertainment industry and all its adjuncts. Another example: 50 cents is known by a lot people but not many people know Curtis Jackson. Curtis Jackson was born in 1975 (?) but 50 cents was born decades later. They both have same face to them but exist in two different realities.

Well, back to the question of the thread…it depends on your definition of ‘shy’.

PS – I’m not saying that these issues apply to only younger generation of females, the thread starter directed the question at females…that’s why I only addressed y’all.

talk2drjax · 06-14-2009, 01:22 AM

Guess shy guys have to make the effort to come out of their shells at some stage.. If e dey do you 'yori yori' you go open mouth by force!