Chei...

[mel]

This used to be the run-away from the main forum....

Its all quiet on here abi NR peeps no dey do romance again?

[naija_pikin]

I know, right? I used to love this forum.

You sef, you dey contribute? Oya, let's talk love. Have you ever been in love? If yes, at what point did you realize that it was the real deal?

[mel]

Originally Posted by naija_pikin

I know, right? I used to love this forum.

You sef, you dey contribute? Oya, let's talk love. Have you ever been in love? If yes, at what point did you realize that it was the real deal?

...I was once a a major contributor during the days of Talljolie. Trespass always brought me here too. Anyways, this is now.

...Been in love Twice, half and a quarter a time (pardon the archaic usage).

@bolded, I knew it was real at the point when for me the only thing that could put asunder was Religion and Family. I found these love outside my religion and ethnicity... oh well

[naija_pikin]

Originally Posted by mel

...I was once a a major contributor during the days of Talljolie. Trespass always brought me here too. Anyways, this is now.

...Been in love Twice, half and a quarter a time (pardon the archaic usage).

@bolded, I knew it was real at the point when for me the only thing that could put asunder was Religion and Family. I found these love outside my religion and ethnicity... oh well

Eya, pele. So it is safe to assume that you will not marry someone who does not share those two categories with you? We have at least one thing in common, although I've never quite made it to the love boat.

[blaze]

people dey find money

[naija_pikin]

Before nko?

[mel]

Originally Posted by naija_pikin

Eya, pele. So it is safe to assume that you will not marry someone who does not share those two categories with you? We have at least one thing in common, although I've never quite made it to the love boat.

Religion, especially, is not a clog in my wheel. Family stance is important but the least of my worries. In both cases, the issue has been from the girls' sides. I tend to be very liberal in these things but look out more for a lady that will make me a good home.

@blaze, so nah now u start look for money? Sorry oo!

[naija_pikin]

Hm. What to ask next?

Ah, yes. Inspired by some thread created earlier today, what is your view on cheating? I was once told that it was inevitable within any lengthy relationship, and does not necessarily have to be a sexual affair. What's your stance on the matter? Forgivable or no? Does it depend on the individual in question (or more accurately, your level of fondness of her)?

Btw, anyone should feel free to jump in at any point with their own answers, thoughts, opinions, questions, or whatever. I'm more than a tad bored of the main forum, myself..let's make this one somewhat interesting again.

[naija_pikin]

Completely random, but I just love watching two dance partners who convey so much chemistry on the stage.. and sometimes, I love nothing more than just dancing with a S.O. I think dance + passion is an absolutely beautiful thing.

[mel]

Originally Posted by naija_pikin

Hm. What to ask next?

Ah, yes. Inspired by some thread created earlier today, what is your view on cheating? I was once told that it was inevitable within any lengthy relationship, and does not necessarily have to be a sexual affair. What's your stance on the matter? Forgivable or no? Does it depend on the individual in question (or more accurately, your level of fondness of her)?

Btw, anyone should feel free to jump in at any point with their own answers, thoughts, opinions, questions, or whatever. I'm more than a tad bored of the main forum, myself..let's make this one somewhat interesting again.

The dynamics of cheating and/or causes can not be really be put down in black and white. For me it boils down to 'relationship values'(individual and shared). I have seen 6yrs relationships without a reported case of cheating and a 2-months relationship filled with horrible cheat-tales.

I was in a 3yr relationship and didn't as much as harbor the thot of cheating. The lengthier one had small-small-cheating but basically because of DISTANCE and shift in values .

If I am in a Relationship and my better half is more emotionally attached/bonded/open to another(any sex at all), thats cheating right there. . What do you think?

My SO(this tag means I am very fond of her and its mutual) is not allowed to cheat or better still make I no know sef. I can forgive unguarded kissing. Anything more than that na carry go.

[naija_pikin]

Originally Posted by mel

The dynamics of cheating and/or causes can not be really be put down in black and white. For me it boils down to 'relationship values'(individual and shared). I have seen 6yrs relationships without a reported case of cheating and a 2-months relationship filled with horrible cheat-tales.

I was in a 3yr relationship and didn't as much as harbor the thot of cheating. The lengthier one had small-small-cheating but basically because of DISTANCE and shift in values .

If I am in a Relationship and my better half is more emotionally attached/bonded/open to another(any sex at all), thats cheating right there. . What do you think?

My SO(this tag means I am very fond of her and its mutual) is not allowed to cheat or better still make I no know sef. I can forgive unguarded kissing. Anything more than that na carry go.

I agree with you - that's cheating. It doesn't even have to be to a greater extent than she is with you; once there's the openness to someone else on the same kind of level, there's a problem.

Unguarded kissing? What do you mean by that?

Will you look at things differently after marriage, in terms of what you would and not be willing to forgive? And where would you draw the line and say "No more." ?

[naija_pikin]

Oh, and so as not to focus on negatives.. what are the things you most appreciate within/about a relationship? What's the sweetest thing that someone has ever done for you?

[mel]

Originally Posted by naija_pikin

I agree with you - that's cheating. It doesn't even have to be to a greater extent than she is with you; once there's the openness to someone else on the same kind of level, there's a problem.

Unguarded kissing? What do you mean by that?

Will you look at things differently after marriage, in terms of what you would and not be willing to forgive? And where would you draw the line and say "No more." ?

...those kind of kisses where somehow it came upon by chance of a fast-guy prolly because she was in a club, we had a little break in the relationship etc


When married, I definitely will see things differently but because change is the only constant thing, once one party is drifting from our core marriage values we need to sit, talk and do the forgive-ables.

Though for me, theres no excuse for extra-marital affair. That draws a fence sef no be only line.

Originally Posted by naija_pikin

Oh, and so as not to focus on negatives.. what are the things you most appreciate within/about a relationship? What's the sweetest thing that someone has ever done for you?

I appreciate me a relationship with a woman that in addition to been able to convey her confidence, wifeyness, sexiness and intelligence, has the understanding and patience to reason out stuff entirely new to her or against her already formed ideals. A social woman that celebrates your life's joys, there to help relieve you in stress periods with her words, special surprises and creative physical sturves like massages, neckings, pecking etc that won't necessarily lead to sex...

...generally understanding, honesty, dedicated commitment is what I appreciate in a relationship


I have had so many sweet things done for me by several ladies... an Ex from outta-state attended to me (while I was ill) in no way I think any one can possibly do now, I have gotten offers for payments of various types(flights, vacation, school related fees even when I can afford to pay for both of us or for myself...and the so many lil things that the other party won't notice but I do value and appreciate them

[naijasensation]

Interesting

[naija_pikin]

I forgot about this thread sha. Mel, you sound like a relationship-oriented person; I like that.


Too bad no one else chimed in.