Questions about Marriage & Naija Culture - What's the norm? - Page 3

NaijaBred · 11-24-2008, 09:25 PM

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Originally Posted by bored

lol! i have my aunts and fomilik telling me now how i don't keep in touch often enough not to talk of random MIL's friend bitching that i didn't call about nonsense aso oke.
and that whole notion about your dear son marrying a chaste virgin, yea, that flew out the window.
like i watch my mom entertain and i don't quite get it. why should i thank you for dropping in on my peace and solitude unannounced and then i'm expected to have food ready for your wobia ass to eat sef.

**Missy** · 11-24-2008, 09:31 PM

ok is it rude not to take a gift if you are going to visit your BF's mum for the first time, like ankara or something

bored · 11-24-2008, 09:33 PM

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Originally Posted by NaijaBred

lol! i have my aunts and fomilik telling me now how i don't keep in touch often enough not to talk of random MIL's friend bitching that i didn't call about nonsense aso oke.
and that whole notion about your dear son marrying a chaste virgin, yea, that flew out the window.
like i watch my mom entertain and i don't quite get it. why should i thank you for dropping in on my peace and solitude unannounced and then i'm expected to have food ready for your wobia ass to eat sef.

LMAO. I feel you tho. Just maintan your gangsta. I might need you to come and fight some people for me in a few years

NaijaBred · 11-24-2008, 09:37 PM

lol! so when are we picking aso-ebi?
btw, are you going home this xmas?

bored · 11-24-2008, 09:38 PM

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Originally Posted by Missy

ok is it rude not to take a gift if you are going to visit your BF's mum for the first time, like ankara or something

I think its a bit off to visit empty handed, but me I'm always scared to take clothes. You don't know her taste. If you are lucky and she is here in yankee, take desert for after dinner or maybe a nice fruit basket.

bored · 11-24-2008, 09:42 PM

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Originally Posted by NaijaBred

lol! so when are we picking aso-ebi?
btw, are you going home this xmas?

Bwhahahaha, according to Fbook, I should be asking YOU that. And PLEASE TELL ME YOU ARE GOING!!

NaijaBred · 11-24-2008, 09:49 PM

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Originally Posted by bored

Bwhahahaha, according to Fbook, I should be asking YOU that. And PLEASE TELL ME YOU ARE GOING!!

me ke? we're still trying to trap the right sucker o!
but yea, i'm going!! so excited. well, was excited about going to see my grand folks until i found out this weekend my grandma passed which sucks fucking balls.

**Missy** · 11-24-2008, 09:52 PM

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Originally Posted by bored

I think its a bit off to visit empty handed, but me I'm always scared to take clothes. You don't know her taste. If you are lucky and she is here in yankee, take desert for after dinner or maybe a nice fruit basket.

lol fruit basket ke, for a yoruba woman?

NaijaBred · 11-24-2008, 09:56 PM

and i've always felt it was a bit presumptuous to take gifts when visiting a boyfriend's family. i always feel as if they're laughing at me behind my back. like, this foolish girl thinks she's "in" because he brought her home. i probably feel this way cause i do the same to my brother's girlfriends.
also, do yoruba people frown upon girlfriend visiting boyfriend's houses, and vice versa? like if you're not official (which i have my own definition of that term) should you be visiting each other's houses? does it become more significant once u meet the folks?

Sirtopy · 11-24-2008, 10:00 PM

All the questions in this thread can be answered with 1 word "DEPENDS"

bored · 11-24-2008, 10:02 PM

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Originally Posted by NaijaBred

me ke? we're still trying to trap the right sucker o!
but yea, i'm going!! so excited. well, was excited about going to see my grand folks until i found out this weekend my grandma passed which sucks fucking balls.

Aww, I'm really sorry to hear about your Grandma.

I'll call you this week no matter what, we should totally hang out if possible.

MizzUndaStud · 11-24-2008, 10:03 PM

meeting his folks is a good but not always official sign... once dated a boy like that oooo and he still dumped my young ass, well I was like 18 sha.. till today when I see his mom she still loves me... Used to babysit and all that but i was a lazy gf sha.lol

bored · 11-24-2008, 10:04 PM

And biko, if you find a mugu, forward me his brothers number. I made wifey list so 2008 is my year

.

NaijaBred · 11-24-2008, 10:09 PM

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Originally Posted by bored

And biko, if you find a mugu, forward me his brothers number. I made wifey list so 2008 is my year

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i didn't make the list, mehn! And to think i totally re-invented myself this year. new attitude was supposed to mean new things for me this year.

but yea, we should definitely talk.

bored · 11-24-2008, 10:30 PM

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Originally Posted by NaijaBred

i didn't make the list, mehn! And to think i totally re-invented myself this year. new attitude was supposed to mean new things for me this year.

but yea, we should definitely talk.

Did you fast? I did 3 months dry fasting. Anyway there is always 2009.

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NaijaBred Registered User Join Date: Jul 2007 Posts: 2,220 Points: 21,960.73 Bank: 8,898,476,635.22 Total Points: 8,898,498,595.95 Donate Rep Power: 0	lol! so when are we picking aso-ebi? btw, are you going home this xmas?

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NaijaBred Registered User Join Date: Jul 2007 Posts: 2,220 Points: 21,960.73 Bank: 8,898,476,635.22 Total Points: 8,898,498,595.95 Donate Rep Power: 0	and i've always felt it was a bit presumptuous to take gifts when visiting a boyfriend's family. i always feel as if they're laughing at me behind my back. like, this foolish girl thinks she's "in" because he brought her home. i probably feel this way cause i do the same to my brother's girlfriends. also, do yoruba people frown upon girlfriend visiting boyfriend's houses, and vice versa? like if you're not official (which i have my own definition of that term) should you be visiting each other's houses? does it become more significant once u meet the folks?

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