Lots of non married couples in "serious" relationships do not seem to be happy

**Mr Chase** · 11-24-2008, 01:38 AM

It seems like women usually benefit more from these relationships than men do. Peace of mind and peace within is usually what the woman enjoys mostly during the relationship, till it peaks and starts collapsing.
During this stage, jealousy and fear are the only factors that keeps the relationship going, but not for long. Till usually, the man walks away from it all, and someone is hurt.
This is only a theory. But most of the guys I know, that have been in "great" relationships seem miserable, unhappy, and obligated to it. This is the main reason why most men would cheat, to get some compensation to time, and commitments that they have put in, all these time. Some men get into relationships for the " I have a girlfriend thats mine" factor, while most women get into relationships cause they dont wanna be lonely, they need a husband, and also the same factor I mentioned for guys

Having said that, I still believe that some relationships are great, but this category is mainly of those who have learned that love, friendship and relationship can co-exist, but do not mix together.

NaijaBred · 11-24-2008, 01:39 AM

did you really type this up?

**Tega** · 11-24-2008, 01:42 AM

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Originally Posted by Mr Chase

It seems like women usually benefit more from these relationships than men do. Peace of mind and peace within is usually what the woman enjoys mostly during the relationship, till it peaks and starts collapsing.
During this stage, jealousy and fear are the only factors that keeps the relationship going, but not for long. Till usually, the man walks away from it all, and someone is hurt.
This is only a theory. But most of the guys I know, that have been in "great" relationships seem miserable, unhappy, and obligated to it. This is the main reason why most men would cheat, to get some compensation to time, and commitments that they have put in, all these time. Some men get into relationships for the " I have a girlfriend thats mine" factor, while most women get into relationships cause they dont wanna be lonely, they need a husband, and also the same factor I mentioned for guys

Having said that, I still believe that some relationships are great, but this category is mainly of those who have learned that love, friendship and relationship can co-exist, but do not mix together.

seem to me the dude would benefit more...........

**Ardeur** · 11-24-2008, 01:42 AM

i thought you were making sense till you got to your last statement. i dont understand it pls explain. how can love,friendship and relationship co-exist but not mix together?

**Floresse8501** · 11-24-2008, 01:43 AM

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Originally Posted by Mr Chase

It seems like women usually benefit more from these relationships than men do. Peace of mind and peace within is usually what the woman enjoys mostly during the relationship, till it peaks and starts collapsing.
During this stage, jealousy and fear are the only factors that keeps the relationship going, but not for long. Till usually, the man walks away from it all, and someone is hurt.
This is only a theory. But most of the guys I know, that have been in "great" relationships seem miserable, unhappy, and obligated to it. This is the main reason why most men would cheat, to get some compensation to time, and commitments that they have put in, all these time. Some men get into relationships for the " I have a girlfriend thats mine" factor, while most women get into relationships cause they dont wanna be lonely, they need a husband, and also the same factor I mentioned for guys

Having said that, I still believe that some relationships are great, but this category is mainly of those who have learned that love, friendship and relationship can co-exist, but do not mix together.

It is rather a two- way stream. In the same manner a woman can be fed up.
This seems to me like a freedom issue ....the question is does the guy feel "owned". Note that both girls and guys are able to feel that there freedom is restricted because they have a S.O that they feel compelled to report too.
I'll Sugest that if at any point in time an individual feel enclosed, it spells time for that individual to move on alone but then its easier said than done.

**Mr Chase** · 11-24-2008, 01:46 AM

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Originally Posted by NaijaBred

did you really type this up?

Get the fuck out of here

**Mr Chase** · 11-24-2008, 01:47 AM

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Originally Posted by Tega

seem to me the dude would benefit more...........

explain

~Zeta~ · 11-24-2008, 01:48 AM

i totally agree with you....esp when the relationship has been on forever..

Murewa · 11-24-2008, 01:51 AM

**Tega** · 11-24-2008, 01:51 AM

for a chic , there is really no security in a prolonged "serious" relationship w/o the legal protection of marriage. For a dude, he has the benefits a girlfriend without the obligations owed to a wife.

**Mr Chase** · 11-24-2008, 01:56 AM

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Originally Posted by Tega

for a chic , there is really no security in a prolonged "serious" relationship w/o the legal protection of marriage. For a dude, he has the benefits a girlfriend without the obligations owed to a wife.

Its called hope,

legal protection of marriage comes with time. Time is what you sow in a relationship, and hope is what keeps you going everyday

**Tega** · 11-24-2008, 02:01 AM

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Originally Posted by Mr Chase

Its called hope,

legal protection of marriage comes with time. Time is what you sow in a relationship, and hope is what keeps you going everyday

id have to be high to synthesize what u just wrote....

**Mr Chase** · 11-24-2008, 02:01 AM

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Originally Posted by Ardeur

i thought you were making sense till you got to your last statement. i dont understand it pls explain. how can love,friendship and relationship co-exist but not mix together?

Love is only a mind theory, frienship is what lasts forever and relationship is the commitment you have to each other.
When you equate the theory of mind to friendship, or mistake your commitment to love, you not only fail, you fall hard.

~Zeta~ · 11-24-2008, 02:02 AM

mr chase ...huh?

NaijaBred · 11-24-2008, 02:03 AM

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Originally Posted by Murewa

uh?

loL! that's what i said but he told me to getthefokouttahere

11-24-2008, 01:38 AM	#1 (permalink)
Mr Chase Elder Join Date: May 2001 Location: New Moneyville, NY Posts: 11,107 Points: 109,248.75 Bank: 43,485,839.42 Total Points: 43,595,088.17 Donate Rep Power: 7725161	Lots of non married couples in "serious" relationships do not seem to be happy It seems like women usually benefit more from these relationships than men do. Peace of mind and peace within is usually what the woman enjoys mostly during the relationship, till it peaks and starts collapsing. During this stage, jealousy and fear are the only factors that keeps the relationship going, but not for long. Till usually, the man walks away from it all, and someone is hurt. This is only a theory. But most of the guys I know, that have been in "great" relationships seem miserable, unhappy, and obligated to it. This is the main reason why most men would cheat, to get some compensation to time, and commitments that they have put in, all these time. Some men get into relationships for the " I have a girlfriend thats mine" factor, while most women get into relationships cause they dont wanna be lonely, they need a husband, and also the same factor I mentioned for guys Having said that, I still believe that some relationships are great, but this category is mainly of those who have learned that love, friendship and relationship can co-exist, but do not mix together. __________________

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