So what suddenly happened???? DDU oya come analyze!!

[masky]

Ok, so dude chased you down like there is no tomorrow as in, he chased and chased and chased you for many months until you finally agreed to talk to him...during the "talking process" you find out he was the best man alive....very nice, gentle calm and sweet. he promised you all you ever wanted and checks on you every morning to know how your night was and every time during the day he calls or text as soon as he gets any chance from work to know how you r doing...you start to really really like him and start craving more time spending and attention and all of a sudden...he starts to act weird....you ask him several times and he says everything is ok yet you both know things have changed significantly. No more texts, no more calls, no more those sweet names he used to call you..funny thing though.. when you call him he answers very normally like all is well and keeps saying nothing is wrong but the phone conversations are way shorter and no more about you both, its now more about nonesense things....finally last night he says i swear with my mama's grave you did nothing to me, i did not meet anybody else and i have not lost interest in you but I DO NOT KNOW WHAT IS WRONG!!!!! and still goes back to his no call, no text.. no show.....what could be wrong????? and would you do????????

[Smurfelina]

eeriieeee.

[~Zeta~]

maybe he realized what he was chasing wasnt all that after all

[Rotimi]

ummm......

alot of things could account for it....

maybe a change in environment for him.......
maybe stressors/problem that occupy his time..
maybe distance........
maybe other girls........
and could be a combination of all................

[petey]

kpom kwem. Nothing more needs to be added. You hit the nail right on the head. You took the words right out of my mouth. Spot on mate. I couldn't have said it better than this ......... the list goes on.

Originally Posted by ~Zeta~

maybe he realized what he was chasing wasnt all that after all

[seen]

1. Loss of interest which is natural. Sometimes what you think you want turns out to be something you don't really want.
2. Natural for individuals during the chase to step up their game-once they get it, putting in that extra may not be necessary. As you indicated, you are now really into him and he can now relax. Same way some females don't put in the extra effort in "looking" good once they feel they have snagged the guy.
3.Preoccupation with something new in his life (assuming not a new woman).

Under these circumstances, don't push it, just wait it out for a while. If it is the first, the relationship will die a natural death---if it is 2/3 no biggie-it is a normal occurence in many relationships and don't overanalyze it. Enjoy the calls that do come in and not the quantity. As for talking nonsense now during phone convos- I don't know the subject matter of these convos- but most men talk nonsense to their girls after the initial stage of getting to know them. Call it a settling in/new found comfort level. I would not overanalyze that- only to the extent that that is all he ever talks about.

[masky]

Reasonable insights...Thanks y'all!

[Obiagéli]

everything could still be perfectly normal. but as relationships get older, the sad reality is the "lovey dovey" stage which we all love so much passes on. the "thrill/rush" of the chase fades out and more concrete things begin to hold the relationship together. the only thing is how long that stage lasts and the extent to which it changes depends on the couple. for some, it is more so than others. the intrigue and curiousity which initially spiced up the relationship reaches a peak and starts to come down. that's when most relationships start getting tagged as being boring or uneventful. for a lucky few though, this is where real love takes it up from and eventually sustains the relationship. so he may be right, nothing may have necessarily gone wrong, but he's just moving to the next "stage".

[monblaze]

ur 'love' ran stale.....drop it!