Head of Relationship-Nigerian version? YOUR OPINION NEEDED.

[SexyyyLady]

I have noticed that most if not all Nigerian men don't believe in equal partnership. They insist on being the Head of Relationship (HOR). Do they know that for this kind of relationship to work, the HOR has to be fair, respectful, considerate, protective, loving, caring, and be able to almost always put his partner's needs above his? Do Nigerian men know this? Or do they have their own version?

Let me give you examples:

· In the relationship, he wants to seat in the driver seat and female in the back seat. Not even the passenger seat. Yet, he wants to transfer all the responsibility that comes with it to her??? Who the hell needs a sperm donor?

· He can only call you when he wants to. If he says he will call her during lunch, he doesn't have to. But the female is supposed to call when she's supposed to call.

· Don't ask him for anything, he doesn't owe her anything. If she asks, she will get a No. His nickname is Dr. NO. But he will ask her for anything he wants anytime he wants and expects to get a Yes.

· He can go anywhere anytime with anyone he wishes to. If she goes anywhere without him, he will bitch. And he will only go out with her where and when he wants.

· He wants to be the decision maker for big and even small issues. No issue is too small for him! Who needs a chi-chi man?

· The list goes on....


Why Nigerian men feel they have to sabotage a good relationship? Why do they like drama? Why do they feel the need to play these head games even when they know they can't win? When they know they have more to lose? When he knows that he needs her more than she needs him? For example, in this particular case,

· The female has more life experience. He's been in school for too long and he just finished. All he knows about life is what he has read in books.

· He doesn't have papers, she does.
· She drives, he doesn't. he doesn't even know how to.
· She owns her own condo in a chic neiborhood, he rents in the ghetto.
· She's a very sexy lady, he's an average joe with a big belly because of too much pounded yam, no muscles, and heart problems.

· She has 100 times more men after her than he has females after him. In clubs, he can't even leave her alone for 5 minutes to go to the washroom. By the time he comes back, at least 5 men are all over her.

· She has more friends than he has, so whether he's there or not she's got people to hang out with and for free. (she doesn't have to pay for gas, parking, cover charge, drinks, food,...she's got everything covered)

· He has to pay whenever he hangs out with his friends because his friends are moochers.
· She earns slightly less money than he does (about 5,000).
· She has waaaayyyyyyy more money in the bank because she's been working longer and also because her social life is basically free. (you guys know that black people social life can get very expensive).

· She's debt-free, he has too much debt and student loans.
· He's the one who has spent thousands of dollars on her since they met 4 months ago, and she has only spent max $100 on him.

· He's the one desperate to get married, he's about 6 years older. He would like to get married by the end of this year, but she has about 3 years t chill

· The list goes on and on....

So now the female has decided to stop complaining and just do her. Let him taste his own medicine and beat him at his own game. Now, while she goes out and have fun and travels, he sits home cranky waiting for her call...

I want to hear everyone opinion males and females. Is this a common thing with Nigerian men or Am I generalizing too much? And do they do it because they know they can get away with it? Shouldn't we, us nigerian women, stop taking all this bs, become independent and be our own women?