Hiding your man

seen · 12-08-2007, 09:03 PM

When a woman gets a boyfriend and for months does not mention it to her friends, what are the plausible reasons:

(a) she is playing it cool and does not want others in her business
(b)she is, deep down, ashamed of him or afraid of what her friends might say
(c) She has no long term interest in the relationship and could not be bothered

Me personally, I think it is b. If you cant tell your friend(s) that you are dating someone, even if the relationship is shortlived, it implies you are "hiding" him,afraid to be seen with him,or think he is not good enough, etc. No matter how secretive you are, no one will hide something they think highly of or appreciate to close friends.

Also, what are some of the things people you know have done or said to hide their significant other.

NaijaBred · 12-08-2007, 10:05 PM

other people won't approve of him. doesnt mean that you're ashamed of him per se, but that other people have a different idea of who you should be with.

checkmate · 12-08-2007, 10:09 PM

well i think it depends on d kind of person d lady is,if she's a shy person then she'll b 2 shy 2 tell her friends or mayb d lady doesn't trust her friends but dat she's ashamed of her guy is out of d question.

hotchoc · 12-08-2007, 10:37 PM

i have a very goodfriend(known her for 8 years) and she's been dating this guy for 3 years now and i've never seen him physically and we are so close it seems weird sef and even within our circuit of friends no one has seen him.When everyone is out with their SO, she doesn't come or she comes alone. i know what he looks like cuz have seen pics of him and he isn't ugly. Her bf had a birthday party recently and none of her friends were invited.
Her reason: keep friendship and relationship seperate i don't get it to that extent but hey that's how she wants it.

Asabi · 12-08-2007, 11:54 PM

My bestfriend had this one boyfriend that she never introduced to me. Agreed I wasn't around most of the time, but still. She told me everything that was going on between both of them though. When things now scatter she wanna run to me. I kinda felt offended that she never introduced him because she clearly introduced him to others.

Most times, I think it's insecurity, or they probably don't trust the dude or something. My thing is, if he's gonna cheat, he'll do it regardless. At the end of the day, he played the crap out of her. Thank God my name wasn't mentioned anywhere...

naija_pikin · 12-09-2007, 01:51 AM

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Originally Posted by NaijaBred

other people won't approve of him. doesnt mean that you're ashamed of him per se, but that other people have a different idea of who you should be with.

Agreed. It's one thing for him not to be seen (I'm basically the only person around here who's seen my best friend's SO, but then again I'm her only close friend here. He's not a big fan of meeting the friends, though.), but months without so much as a mention? Something's up. I definitely think it's because she knows they won't approve the relationship, whatever the reason, and is trying to save herself the headache of justifying herself/him over and over again, as will likely be the case.

If it's not that, then she is ashamed of the man, for reasons unknown.

It could also be that it's one of those funny type relationships where one or both partners don't know exactly where they stand with the other (even though they're so-called b/f-g/f), have not discussed it, and would like to save themselves the embarrassment of mentioning it to a friend, or friends, only to have to report an abrupt ending a little while later. Even relatively open people can become secretive about precarious situations. It makes more sense in undefined relationships, though, rather than in bonafide ones.

EastWind · 12-09-2007, 02:46 AM

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Originally Posted by hotchoc

i have a very goodfriend(known her for 8 years) and she's been dating this guy for 3 years now and i've never seen him physically and we are so close it seems weird sef and even within our circuit of friends no one has seen him.When everyone is out with their SO, she doesn't come or she comes alone. i know what he looks like cuz have seen pics of him and he isn't ugly. Her bf had a birthday party recently and none of her friends were invited.
Her reason: keep friendship and relationship seperate i don't get it to that extent but hey that's how she wants it.

she is afraid you girls will steal him away.

Ohsnap · 12-09-2007, 03:56 AM

It means the guy is wor wor and she's ashamed

ifyalways · 12-09-2007, 09:43 PM

she is doing so for very good reasons best known to her.

La Reine · 12-10-2007, 02:14 AM

Maybe she's lying about having a man. :fancy:

**NARNIA** · 12-10-2007, 05:12 AM

c- been there done that!

Chickram · 12-10-2007, 05:16 AM

Quote:

Originally Posted by seen

When a woman gets a boyfriend and for months does not mention it to her friends, what are the plausible reasons:

(a) she is playing it cool and does not want others in her business
(b)she is, deep down, ashamed of him or afraid of what her friends might say
(c) She has no long term interest in the relationship and could not be bothered

.

i will say both. but if i have to pick the most correct, i will say B. esp if the keyword here is MONTHS.

Chickram · 12-10-2007, 05:18 AM

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Originally Posted by Asabi

My bestfriend had this one boyfriend that she never introduced to me. Agreed I wasn't around most of the time, but still. She told me everything that was going on between both of them though. When things now scatter she wanna run to me. I kinda felt offended that she never introduced him because she clearly introduced him to others.

Most times, I think it's insecurity, or they probably don't trust the dude or something. My thing is, if he's gonna cheat, he'll do it regardless. At the end of the day, he played the crap out of her. Thank God my name wasn't mentioned anywhere...

dat too...

**Eraser** · 12-11-2007, 12:53 PM

Holier than thou attitude

NEPHEW · 12-12-2007, 04:02 AM

Or, it could be that she has more than one guy....

12-08-2007, 09:03 PM	#1 (permalink)
seen Registered User Join Date: Jan 2006 Location: No Where Posts: 1,625 Points: 27,297.45 Bank: 34,337,963.70 Total Points: 34,365,261.15 Donate Rep Power: 3513670	Hiding your man When a woman gets a boyfriend and for months does not mention it to her friends, what are the plausible reasons: (a) she is playing it cool and does not want others in her business (b)she is, deep down, ashamed of him or afraid of what her friends might say (c) She has no long term interest in the relationship and could not be bothered Me personally, I think it is b. If you cant tell your friend(s) that you are dating someone, even if the relationship is shortlived, it implies you are "hiding" him,afraid to be seen with him,or think he is not good enough, etc. No matter how secretive you are, no one will hide something they think highly of or appreciate to close friends. Also, what are some of the things people you know have done or said to hide their significant other.

12-08-2007, 11:54 PM	#5 (permalink)
Asabi Registered User Join Date: Aug 2007 Location: somewhere... Posts: 568 Points: 36,092.40 Bank: 135,988.51 Total Points: 172,080.91 Donate Rep Power: 707230	My bestfriend had this one boyfriend that she never introduced to me. Agreed I wasn't around most of the time, but still. She told me everything that was going on between both of them though. When things now scatter she wanna run to me. I kinda felt offended that she never introduced him because she clearly introduced him to others. Most times, I think it's insecurity, or they probably don't trust the dude or something. My thing is, if he's gonna cheat, he'll do it regardless. At the end of the day, he played the crap out of her. Thank God my name wasn't mentioned anywhere... __________________ "Success is getting what you want....happiness is wanting what you get"- Warren Buffet

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NaijaBred Registered User Join Date: Jul 2007 Posts: 2,220 Points: 21,960.73 Bank: 8,898,476,635.22 Total Points: 8,898,498,595.95 Donate Rep Power: 0	other people won't approve of him. doesnt mean that you're ashamed of him per se, but that other people have a different idea of who you should be with.

12-08-2007, 10:09 PM	#3 (permalink)
checkmate Registered User Join Date: Dec 2007 Posts: 4 Points: 28.00 Bank: 0.00 Total Points: 28.00 Donate Rep Power: 0	well i think it depends on d kind of person d lady is,if she's a shy person then she'll b 2 shy 2 tell her friends or mayb d lady doesn't trust her friends but dat she's ashamed of her guy is out of d question.

12-08-2007, 10:37 PM	#4 (permalink)
hotchoc Registered User Join Date: Sep 2005 Location: under the sheets Posts: 2,838 Points: 10,605.04 Bank: 3,908,385.68 Total Points: 3,918,990.72 Donate Rep Power: 3131628	i have a very goodfriend(known her for 8 years) and she's been dating this guy for 3 years now and i've never seen him physically and we are so close it seems weird sef and even within our circuit of friends no one has seen him.When everyone is out with their SO, she doesn't come or she comes alone. i know what he looks like cuz have seen pics of him and he isn't ugly. Her bf had a birthday party recently and none of her friends were invited. Her reason: keep friendship and relationship seperate i don't get it to that extent but hey that's how she wants it.

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Ohsnap Lolita Join Date: Dec 2006 Location: Tx Posts: 6,839 Points: 3,030.70 Bank: 3,152,858,845.93 Total Points: 3,152,861,876.63 Donate Rep Power: 21474860	It means the guy is wor wor and she's ashamed

12-09-2007, 09:43 PM	#9 (permalink)
ifyalways Registered User Join Date: Dec 2007 Posts: 2 Points: 747.95 Bank: 0.00 Total Points: 747.95 Donate Rep Power: 0	she is doing so for very good reasons best known to her.

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