Dowry Issues!!!

[Efizzybaby]

A friend of mine got engaged over the New Year holiday.

Background:

The woman: The woman is a Nigerian girl who has been raised in the United states. Her parents (and extended family) are Nigerians living in Nigera for the greater majority of their lives hence are very traditional with regards to traditions and custom. The woman is the oldest of five children and graduated from law school two years ago and has since been a practicing lawyer.

The man: The man is half American (mother) and Half Nigerian (father). He was born and raised in the U.S. he graduated from college 4 years ago with a degree in accounting. but has recently decided to embark into the teaching profession.

The couple: Did a formal introduction at the girls parents house at which time they were presented with a list that detailed what her family expected in terms of DOWRY. Upon review of the list it was discovered that the monetary value of the items totaled out to 32,000 american dollars.

MY QUESTIONS. . .
HOW REASONABLE AND NORMAL IS THIS IN REGARDS TO CUSTOMS AND PRACTICES THAT YOU ARE FAMILIAR WITH.
WHY IS THE FAMILY ASKING FOR SO MUCH?
WHAT ARE THE IMPLICATIONS FOR THE UPCOMING NUPTUALS???

[kulata]

Is the bride to be Igbo?

I think UBA now offers dowry loan at 25% APR

[Kugbe]

32,000 Dullas. The girl na Igbo girl abi, them don calculate the cost of her educational achievements, na only Igbo people dey do that one

too much. waaaaaaay too much.

[Lanju]

Originally Posted by efizzybaby

A friend of mine got engaged over the New Year holiday.

Background:

The woman: The woman is a Nigerian girl who has been raised in the United states. Her parents (and extended family) are Nigerians living in Nigera for the greater majority of their lives hence are very traditional with regards to traditions and custom. The woman is the oldest of five children and graduated from law school two years ago and has since been a practicing lawyer.

The man: The man is half American (mother) and Half Nigerian (father). He was born and raised in the U.S. he graduated from college 4 years ago with a degree in accounting. but has recently decided to embark into the teaching profession.

The couple: Did a formal introduction at the girls parents house at which time they were presented with a list that detailed what her family expected in terms of DOWRY. Upon review of the list it was discovered that the monetary value of the items totaled out to 32,000 american dollars.

MY QUESTIONS. . .
HOW REASONABLE AND NORMAL IS THIS IN REGARDS TO CUSTOMS AND PRACTICES THAT YOU ARE FAMILIAR WITH.
WHY IS THE FAMILY ASKING FOR SO MUCH?
WHAT ARE THE IMPLICATIONS FOR THE UPCOMING NUPTUALS???

its a rip off
its an abuse of the tradition
na becos dem pickin na lawyer so na high price

mennn bobo fit ja oooo





ibo pipu sha

hmm now if the babe marry di guy and she make am vex, bobo go vex sound am oo becos when im think of im 32k.

i like my tribe just buy ogogoro for the elders and you are good to go

[Optimist]

Na wa ...I thot Dowry was just symbolic nowadays

I mean even when my parents were getting married it was symbolic ...i.e not a lot was asked .

But I guess her family is hungry

[Clockwatcher]

Originally Posted by kulata

Is the bride to be Igbo?

I think UBA now offers dowry loan at 25% APR

LMAO.

I suspect they are Igbo sha... if this is a true story.

But in all honesty, at this point, Bride Price is symbolic. I know they must feel that since they educated a lawyer, they are "giving away" something valuable but $32K is extremely retarded.

I think they are simply trying to put an end to this engagement after all, how's a teacher going to afford all that?

[Ms Tolace]

32,000...hmmmmmmmm they wanna just sell her off so he wont return her

[Lady ACM]

na wa oh.. so friggn ridiculous. @ dis day n age.. so d man gotta pay for her educational achievements.. na beans? shooo n dem go dey talk abt love.

[Kikelomo]

Say who die?He needs to go buy some yam.

[Chxta]

Originally Posted by efizzybaby

A friend of mine got engaged over the New Year holiday.

Background:

The woman: The woman is a Nigerian girl who has been raised in the United states. Her parents (and extended family) are Nigerians living in Nigera for the greater majority of their lives hence are very traditional with regards to traditions and custom. The woman is the oldest of five children and graduated from law school two years ago and has since been a practicing lawyer.

The man: The man is half American (mother) and Half Nigerian (father). He was born and raised in the U.S. he graduated from college 4 years ago with a degree in accounting. but has recently decided to embark into the teaching profession.

The couple: Did a formal introduction at the girls parents house at which time they were presented with a list that detailed what her family expected in terms of DOWRY. Upon review of the list it was discovered that the monetary value of the items totaled out to 32,000 american dollars.

MY QUESTIONS. . .
HOW REASONABLE AND NORMAL IS THIS IN REGARDS TO CUSTOMS AND PRACTICES THAT YOU ARE FAMILIAR WITH.
WHY IS THE FAMILY ASKING FOR SO MUCH?
WHAT ARE THE IMPLICATIONS FOR THE UPCOMING NUPTUALS???

They are Igbo.

[FekNr]

Is dowrey necessary in this day and age? It seems so primitive to me sha, I hate the idea of someone buying me.

[WT]

all of you saying igbo ARE CORRECT. they are the only ones that do that. dowry in my village is 400 naira 200 each for the parents. the stuff they ask you to bring isnt much either.

[Kikelomo]

Originally Posted by Ms Tolace

32,000...hmmmmmmmm they wanna just sell her off so he wont return her

He better get warranty sef.

[WT]

Originally Posted by Ms Tolace

32,000...hmmmmmmmm they wanna just sell her off so he wont return her

and the girl may turn out useless sef